Comments on: Are divorce settlements fair after a brain injury?

By: Michelle #jumbledbrain

Michelle #jumbledbrain — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 01:49:52 +0000

In reply to Bonnie. I’m sorry, that doesn’t sound fair to me either

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Sun, 21 Jun 2020 22:08:14 +0000

North Dakota is no different unfortunately my ex was able to continue working and make good money where I was kind of put out in the dust things were split 50-50 but no alimony etc. to me that was very wrong as I covered all his insurance for years and years the groceries plus I bought the house years ago it’s a disgrace against the injured person. I also had an attorney that was willing to just settle it off not knowing she was in a divorce of her own therefore her priorities were her own divorce to me she should’ve been disbarred.

By: Michelle #jumbledbrain

Michelle #jumbledbrain — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 19:42:10 +0000

In reply to Dawn Lennon. Thanks for sharing with me the US law, that’s very interesting. Here inheritances would also be included, regardless of when they have obtained. I hope your son better understands now why you struggle with decisions now. Of course he found it confusing to see that change in you, but I hope he now can relate to you better.

By: Dawn Lennon

Dawn Lennon — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 18:47:05 +0000

I shared this with my son as I struggle with the changes in my life and find it extremely difficult to make an informed educated decision in one sweep. For some time now I have been taking things to him to help make an informed decision. It frustrated him his statement to me ” you were super mom before the injury and your not now”. The way you described the brain processing in this article was very clear while informative. I had forwarded it to him to read He really liked it and commented so(it is rare for him to comment).
Well written well informed. P.S. in U.S. the spouse has no claims on assets required before marriage be it inheritance or settlements. Now if a person were to combine their assets with their spouse in a marriage it would convolute the issue but the courts work hard at protecting people. Not always successful.

By: Dawn Lennon

Dawn Lennon — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 18:47:05 +0000

By: Michelle #jumbledbrain

Michelle #jumbledbrain — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 01:39:09 +0000

In reply to Mark. Thanks Mark. Originally the law was to make sure women who were home makers, caring for the children, would be able to start again. And that makes sense. But I think it needs to be reviewed to put in extra measures for people who have settlements to help them with their disabilities.

By: Mark

Mark — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 01:07:42 +0000

Wow ! that’s hard to even believe, that any modern-day justice system would take from the disabled to give to healthy. As if we don’t already have it stacked up against us they add to our hardships. Some members of the human race are just so morally corrupt its sad. But most of us are so much stronger than the average day to day person I’m sure we will survive and simply grow stronger.
I take my hat off to you Michelle.

By: Michelle #jumbledbrain

Michelle #jumbledbrain — Wed, 17 Jun 2020 18:49:23 +0000

In reply to Steven Midghall. Thanks for sharing your experience Steven. Yes it’s important that when the spouse has made sacrifices along the way that they are able to rebuild their lives too.

By: Steven Midghall

Steven Midghall — Wed, 17 Jun 2020 18:25:05 +0000

This is a complicated one, I got divorced ten years ago, 6 years after my car accident.
It worked out that my ex wife was entitled to 45% of the value of the house I purchased with 1/2 of my compensation pay out. She didn’t try to get a share of the amount I had left which I needed considering I can not work.
I originally thought this was unfair as she was able to work but in retrospect she gave up any career prospects to look after me and our son, who I couldn’t do a lot with. Also she needed the money to provide our son with a place to live and a decent upbringing.
It’s a very complicated situation and I think the law needs reassessing but every case is so individual

By: Michelle #jumbledbrain

Michelle #jumbledbrain — Wed, 17 Jun 2020 10:51:03 +0000

In reply to Bryan. I believe that if you keep your finances separated as an unmarried couple, you don’t have to divide assets equally. This only changes depending on the type of mortgage you have and if you have a joint bank account. But yes, I do think the system needs to be reviewed.