Yes Kelly I completely agree with you! Afterall, the interview process isn’t just for the employer to decide if you are right for them, it’s for you to decide if they are right for you. Ultimately I’m pleased that I didn’t get the job, I wasn’t ready. I didn’t understand how ill I still was and felt “unjustified” at remaining unemployed. With hindsight I now realise how wrong this was and that my healing had to come first. Perhaps the interviewer could see this and was doing me a favour by turning me down and making me reevaluate my situation.

You might find that practice will lessen the effects. Or maybe it’s not quite the right time yet. Don’t be disheartened. Whilst I still haven’t passed an interview, that’s because I haven’t tried since. 3 years still is early so just chalk it up to experience.

Your therapists do sound brilliant. I genuinely thought I would be fine and was surprised that I didn’t hold it together. But if I’d done some role plays I might have seen what works and what doesn’t.

During my outpatient rehab sessions as it became apparent that I would have to find a job and, of course attend interviews my therapists came up with a plan and beside advising me on what I could or could not disclose to a prospective employer. Once I indicated that if asked I would tell them about my brain injury, they then walked me through the different scenarios and gave me practice sessions on how I could tell them and made me practice the wording of how I wanted to say it. Fortunately I have not had the need, so far, to put the practice to use

Well you’re good at it so keep writing ?✍

The like button is at the bottom of the page beneath the social media icons. How awful that you lost your job when you were still reeling from the shock of your diagnosis. It must felt like that saying, “it never rains, but it pours.”