Like many other brain injury survivors I struggle with fatigue most days. I can’t remember the last time I felt refreshed and raring to go. Not even after I’ve had a decent sleep. Whilst people are sympathetic when you tell them you suffer with fatigue, how can you help them understand what it really feels like? I briefly mentioned it in Don’t guess what I need, one of my early posts about how people don’t know how to approach survivors. But now I’m going to do my best to put more flesh on the bones of the subject.
Why fatigue happens after a brain injury
The brain has lots of super highways where messages and commands surge through to another area of the brain for every task. These are neurons, and we are constantly building new ones. Babies are the champions at this as they experience new things, and learn more about how their own body works. The older we get, like most other things about us, this process gets slower.
When you have a brain injury some of these super highways can become damaged. So you still might know how to go about something, but some of the actions that used to be second nature become more difficult. You brain has to make decisions and send instructions to different regions for even the simplest task.
You always take the motorway to work, and you avoid rush hour. The route is pretty direct and you are able to travel at the speed limit for your entire journey. It’s quick and efficient. Means you don’t have to leave earlier, and you have more energy left for other things when you arrive.
Sounds great! But one day an earthquake happens and the motorway is destroyed. But you love your job, and being resourceful, you know you can get there using an alternative route. (Go you! Determination is a great thing!) But no sat nav is working, so you’re back to following road signs. (Are you feeling stressed yet?)
All the other drivers who would use the motorway are in the same boat, so turn to the same roads. It’s congested and slow going. Everyone is following the diversion signs, with only some using less known routes. This is going to take much longer than usual. But you have called ahead to work, so at least they know you’re going to be late and it’s not your fault. (Take a deep breath, and remain calm. Road rage won’t get you there any faster.)
The diversion is confusing and you take a few wrong turns. (Don’t worry you’re not alone. Everyone is, it’s no reflection on you. Grit those teeth and plough on! You can do this!) Everything feels so unfamiliar so you need your wits about you. When you used the motorway you could almost do it using autopilot, but today you need to really put your back into it.
After battling against the odds, you finally arrive. (You might be seriously late, but at least your Boss will appreciate the effort, right?) The office is in chaos as lots of staff have suffered a similar start to their day, and everything is backed up. So when you see your Boss to report for duty, instead of the warm welcome you were expecting, you are shown a massive pile of work on your desk.
And that’s when you realise no amount of coffee is going to get you through today.
The journey alone has left you frazzled, and you wish you hadn’t bothered. Even as you start to try to tackle the first task which is mundane and something you would usually fly through, you find it hard to concentrate and make mistakes. You make so many mistakes you would usually be fired for being so rubbish. But because the whole place is in such disarray they have to keep you. You’re better than nothing. You haven’t achieved much, but you’re knackered and considering resigning.
Welcome to my world. This is what journeys for those important little messages are like. The little guy might be just going to tell my hand holding the mug of tea to be more steady. But because he is taking so long someone else has to step in. So another little guy is going to the eyes to tell them to watch the mug to help make sure it’s steady. But he was about to be used to deal with overall balance. Quick find a replacement! OK got one, but we need extra correction now due to the delay. It’s a two man job! Um where does he think he’s going? Too late, spilt it anyway and wasted all that extra energy.
This is just one example of how easily fatigue happens.
Absolutely everything can become a battle. I can still do things, but the energy needed just in the processing of the task and really take it out of me. I hope that makes it a little easier to understand why I’m not just tired.
Other articles you might like:
- You’re an expert on brain injury? Well I’m the expert on mine.
- Mourning me and insecure after brain injury.
- Frustratingly dreadful with dates, thanks brain injury .
- How to enjoy a conversation after brain injury.
- TBI: Lost confidence.
How much do you struggle with fatigue? Do you feel people understand what it’s like for you?